I am having a tough time figuring out what I want to focus on here at Cal. My parents are really pushing me to take all the pre-med courses and go to medical school after I graduate, but I feel like that’s not really what I want to do. There are so many cool clubs around campus but with the workload that I have with my pre-med classes, I don’t have time for any extracurricular activities. I have tried telling my parents that I don’t want to go to medical school but they won’t hear any of it. I don’t want to disappoint my parents, but I don’t want to spend my time here at Cal studying subjects that don’t interest me! What do I tell them?”
Parents can be quite pushy sometimes! Even though I think that people should be able to do what makes them happy in life, sometimes it’s not always as simple as that. Because your parents have supported you throughout your life, I think that it’s important for you to respect their opinions, but not necessarily give in to everything they want you to do. I think you should tell them that there are many other occupations and focuses that can allow you to be just as successful as a doctor.This is a tricky situation because you don’t want to disrespect your parents, but I think that as long as you tell them you are happier focusing on other subjects at the moment, they will be happy for you too!
—Cal Barista Carol
Mama Luv understands how difficult it is to please people you love, especially your parents. But your own happiness is an important part of your health as well, and I am sure you understand that. Mama Luv feels that perhaps it will be easier for your parents to see your way if you can show them an equally rewarding alternative. For instance, think about your parents’ interests: why do they want you to go to medical school? Is it for status, money, stability, or anything else? If you can figure this out (or even ask them!), Mama Luv would suggest finding another major that suits your and your parents’ interests. Honey, I understand this is a tough situation, but give it some time and thought. In the meantime, keep your chin up, strut with confidence, and shake what your Mama gave ya! Mama Luv is here to help.